Welcome to Conflict Confidential, a newsletter about conflict, relationships, and being a person.
We’re in the final days of the year. Is anyone checking their email? (Yes, some of us yes.) Is anyone thinking that hard? (No. But some of us yes.)
During this holiday gap time I so welcome being in free-float and a bit reflective. But I’m in my head a lot in the quiet moments between seeing family. I’m noticing weird internal conflicts bubbling. Replaying regrets, creating critiques. What is up with that? Can I just CHILL? Sigh. Brain be braining. She can’t help herself!
I’m feeling an urge to problem-solve, to plan, to act. Burying myself under blankets helps soothe the impulses. Yet I’m still low-key worried about what’s happening out there. Like, the world seems not okay and yet somehow it’s still spinning? Where are we going? What’s even happening? Despite grief and occasional dread, I’m still a believer actions big and small help shift things along, ideally positively. We work on creating the future we want, together. Not now, of course. We resting. But maybe we pick it back up the start of next year?
To build future we first gotta take stock. Now’s a good time to do that. This next year, in 2024, we need to know what needs to be IN and what is OUT?
I started making a list but I need your help. From where I am I can’t see all the vantage points. You can help expand the vision.
CLICK HERE to be part of creating the definitive 2024 IN + OUT list.
The list is aspirational. It’s honest. It’s collaborative. It’s anonymous. It’s in need of pop culture references I’m too overworked to know about. It’s just for funsies. It’s maybe a potential blueprint for where we’re going.
If you disagree with what I/someone added put why next to it (in italics or parentheses.) Dissent, personal resolutions, it’s all welcome. I’ll check on our list in the coming days and then format it for public consumption. Next year I’ll share what we all came up with.
If each person contributes even one thing it’ll form a glimpse of what’s in the ether amongst us. A future-making reference point. Here’s that link again, go on get in der!
Hey, I appreciate you clicking open and reading my words. It means a lot to me. Though I’m trying to not seek external validation to bolster my self-esteem, it feels really nice to know you’re engaging with my ideas. Thank you.
Wishing you and yours a happy, healthy, vibrant, and safe 2024.
Turning down invitations or not truthfully responding to them. At least for me, it takes a lot to invite someone so I make it an effort to attend as many invites to events (even though I have to force myself sometimes) it helps putting oneself outside of comfort zones where sometimes the most important developments happen!